6 behaviors that seem good to you, but make men lose interest quickly

Photo: "Pride & Prejudice" (2005)

Yes, we know, no one can be 100% the best version of themselves all the time. Especially in relationships, where we expose not only the good, but also that other part that we would like to hide from everyone. However, there are some behaviors that, although they may seem innocent, make a man leave immediately.

These are 6 behaviors that, according to experts, quickly extinguish his attraction as if by magic:

1. When you try to control it, in the name of "fixing"

You're the girl who always knows best. You correct him, show him how to do it, point out every mistake, and see him as a project that needs to be "fixed." You mean well, we know, but when you constantly "put him in the position," he starts to feel like a bad student, not a partner.

2. When you act like his mom 

You take care of him, you pamper him, you treat him well, but at some point he goes from partner to his mother. And he? He will either start rebelling like a teenager, or he will lose interest altogether. No man wants a mother instead of a partner. And you, for the sake of truth, are not there to raise someone, but to share life with them.

3. When I use intimacy as a "reward"

If sex becomes a card to get what you want, with the style of "if you behave well, you get rewarded," you are not building a relationship. You are manipulating. And this, beyond the fact that it is not fair, creates a toxic relationship where intimacy loses all meaning.

4. When he expects to "save" you

The savior and the helpless princess are a fable that only sells in fairy tales. In real life, when you are always “in need,” there will come a time when he simply gets tired. Men don’t want to be permanent heroes, they want a partner with whom they can face life together.

5. When the connection becomes a bank account

If you've started counting who paid more, who did more, who gave more, you're probably in a relationship with... an Excel spreadsheet. Love is not a transaction, it's an experience. If everything is measured by invoices, emotions dry up and the relationship turns into a cold cooperation contract.

6. When you need to be adored, not loved

You're the girl who doesn't just want love, but a permanent audience to applaud you. A relationship where one person is the center of attention and the other is a spectator doesn't last. Because in the end, you're not building a relationship, you're building a facade.

If you feel touched by any point, calm down. We have all done one of these at one time or another. The importance lies in awareness and change. Because when we know ourselves, our connections become healthier and more genuine.

_{Source: Your Tango}