We all know that at the beginning of a relationship there is a set of “unwritten rules” that both parties follow silently. Studies show that cultural norms and personal expectations create a two-way idea of ??how relationships are formed.
Women often believe that a man who is seriously interested in only them is much less likely to break their heart than someone who is dating several at the same time.
They want security in a relationship. They want to know that they're not wasting their time building feelings, only to have him tell them, "I'm not interested anymore." But no matter how important the person you're dating is, pushing a man into a relationship before he's ready is like letting a bird out of a cage before it can fly. It's not a good decision for either man or woman.
However, if you want him to devote himself only to you, you must follow these three steps.
1. Focus on shared values
If you and he don't share the most essential values ??in life, your relationship will be terrible. Contrary to the saying that "opposites attract," in essential matters like lifestyle, family, life goals, there should be compatibility.
If a girl wants a simple life, or picnics in nature, and he is a man who prefers populated places, conflicts are inevitable. These differences need to be recognized and appreciated from the beginning.
A 2016 study showed that while initial attraction and shared interests matter, values ??are what create a lasting foundation in a relationship.
2. Spend quality time together
If you see each other less than three times a week, the relationship is probably not where you want it to be. If he can't make time for more, he's either too busy, or he's just not interested enough.
Studies show that time spent together, especially in the beginning, is crucial for creating a strong bond and building emotional intimacy.
3. Be clear about what you are looking for.
A woman who says, “I prefer not to have intimate relationships with someone until I feel a deep emotional connection,” is much clearer than someone who says, “I don’t want intimacy without being in a relationship.”
The former doesn't pressure for a formal relationship, but rather sets healthy boundaries and gives the other a clear map to what matters: real connection. This weeds out anyone who isn't interested in investing emotionally and gives her more clarity about her real goals.
So, make sure you have a good understanding of the person's principles, even though it may seem too early to look into things in such detail. Secondly, pay close attention to how much time they spend with you and be very honest with them about the relationship you want to create.
