It seems that all relationships go through a crisis at some point. However, if a relationship has a specific characteristic, then the frequency of difficult moments increases and its end may be near (if action is not taken by both parties.)
According to psychologist Dr. Aria Campbell Danesh, the relationship that always fails is one where the demands for attention, reassurance, or affirmation from one partner become excessive and tiring for the other party. When this happens, although the demands may be met at the time, the other party would still not be happy. Put simply, if we constantly demand attention from our partner, it may happen that even if he becomes somewhat more committed to us, we will still not be happy and feel a kind of tension or emptiness. But this situation can tire the other party, leading to the end of the relationship.
Dr. Danesh emphasizes the importance of identifying these behavioral patterns as early as possible. This gives us the opportunity to build healthier communication and learn to rely more on ourselves, instead of constantly seeking validation or time from others.
To achieve this kind of communication, it is essential to learn to listen attentively to the other person. And for this to happen, without fear of any misunderstanding, we can play the game “two speakers”. One of the two will take it upon himself to express different thoughts for a few seconds and the second will paraphrase his words.
Then the roles will change and both parties will be able to understand, through this type of conversation, where their communication "gets stuck." So, with this test you will understand exactly how your partner perceives what you are expressing to them and this is the ideal case to correct it without getting caught.
However, we must always keep in mind that the goal of this technique is to learn to understand the other person, not to always find the perfect solution or the culprit.
When this type of communication is successfully achieved, we are more likely to reconnect with our partner and leave behind the insecurities that damage our relationship and our lives.
Source: Marie Claire
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