"Dear girl or woman,
If you're reading this message and feeling pressured to become a mother "on time," I want to tell you something from the bottom of my heart: there is no "right time" that society defines to be a mother. There is only the time when you feel ready.
I am 50 years old today and I gave birth to my first daughter at the age of 37 and my second at the age of 42. And no, I have never regretted it. On the contrary, I have the most fulfilling life I could have ever dreamed of.
I didn't rush into becoming a mother. In my fourth decade, I felt established as a woman, secure in my career, and most of all, in love with my life. I was finally ready to share that love and that stability with someone else. Not because I had to, but because I wanted to.
When you become a "late" mother, you don't see a child as a duty or a sacrifice. You see it as an extension of your soul. As an investment. I was taught that family is everything, and this love I received, I have tried to give to my daughters with every hug, every weekend spent together, every afternoon game.
Even though there's an age difference between me and my daughters, our bond is built on quality time. Not on the rule of what age I should have given birth to them.
My older daughter is only 13 years old today and it makes my heart ache when she tells me how much she loves spending time with me. And my younger daughter, one day, without me even mentioning it, said to me:
"Mom, even though other moms are younger, you are the most beautiful and super mom of all to me."
She learned the latter from the way her father talks to her. And it's exactly there that she realizes how much children are influenced by what they see and feel every day at home.
There are no more beautiful words than those that come naturally from a small heart that has grown up seeing love, respect and tenderness. Children are the most honest reflection of who we are as parents. And when a child grows up with love, they consequently see their parents as the most beautiful in the world. I know, because that's how I see my wonderful parents too.
So, in conclusion, you can be a mother even in your 20s, in your 30s, but it's never too late to become a mother when you feel ready. Don't measure your life by other people's biological clock, but by your own heart rate.
With love,
"A mother who didn't rush and won everything."
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