Lack of success in dating can be due to a person's first impression of you, because there are often non-obvious things they are judging you for without you even realizing it.
Here are the non-obvious things people judge you on when they first meet you, according to biological anthropologist Helen Fisher:
1. Your teeth
"Your teeth say a lot about how old you are and your health," says Fisher. Your dental identity reflects your age, gender, income level, and social status. Teeth grinding, in particular, indicates psychological, lifestyle, and personality traits. For example, if you smoke, drink a lot of coffee, or have a lot of anxiety, frustration, or anger in your life.
Studies have found that people with whiter teeth are perceived as trustworthy, professionally and financially successful, and attractive. Yellow teeth and "abnormal" spaces between them have negative effects on attractiveness.
2. Your grammar
If "He goes to meet the girl I'm seeing" seems like a grammatically correct sentence to you, we have bad news for you.
One study determined that 75% of men and 88% of women prefer good grammar over confidence; another found that men reduce their chances of getting a date with a woman by 14% when their dating profiles contain grammatical errors.
To increase your chances of making a good first impression, improve your spelling and grammar skills as much as possible.
3. Your self-confidence
Your self-confidence says a lot about your emotional stability. The way we feel about ourselves can affect our relationships. If we don't feel good about ourselves, we don't have the positive emotional energy to focus on another person.
Additionally, when we don't feel confident, we present that weak version of ourselves to others. This makes it clear to others that you are not comfortable in your own skin and potentially unable to remain authentic.
We are built with some special quick-acting skills that can help us when we meet someone for the first time. For example, when you are unsure, you may bite your nails or engage in other repetitive habits, and you may avoid eye contact, making you appear anxious and untrustworthy.
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Source: YourTango
