Have you ever heard the expression: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”?
This is one of those sayings that makes you reflect.
Unlike colleagues, whom we often cannot choose, we choose our friends and partners. That's why it's essential to be careful with those who influence our lives, not only in visible ways, but also in the way we think, react, and grow.
If you need a boost to clear your mind, here are 5 categories of people that no one needs, especially not during times when you need peace and focus.
1. The gossiper
At first, it might have seemed interesting to you that you were aware of every secret affair or dramatic breakup. But then you realize: if someone talks about everyone to you, they probably talk about you to everyone.
Gossip doesn't bring you anything productive. All it takes is two or three "secrets" that don't concern you, and suddenly you have the emotional baggage of the entire neighborhood.
2. The Manipulator
They are masters: they convince you, they make you feel guilty, and they always do what they want. Over time, you feel controlled, unable to make your own decisions, and exhausted. In a healthy relationship, no one needs to play with your mind.
3. The judge
If every time you share something personal, he/she makes you feel ashamed or “not good enough” – we have a problem. Judges don’t give you advice, they punish you. They don’t see the effort, they only see the mistake. And the worst part? They make you feel guilty for things you didn’t do.
4. The Exaggerator
For them, everything is drama. A late message is “disrespect”. A small misunderstanding is “moral betrayal”. At first you can try to understand them. Then, you get tired. These people don't want solutions, they want to tell the next drama. And you, in silence, remain their audience. Stay away from immature people.
5. Emotional
Talking about feelings is a good thing. Talking about them alone, without doing anything to improve them, is not so good. These people get you into a vicious circle: long, boring conversations with no change. If you stay with them too long, you will fall into the same trap. It is easier to talk about feelings and problems than about the solutions behind them.
