Like it or not, society has imposed on men the expectation of being the "tough", "strong" and "wild" ones in a relationship, especially romantic ones. The questions that boys/men ask most often during therapy with psychologists are the following:
- I was not brought up to express my feelings. Will I ever be able to be vulnerable with my partner?
- How can I be a man if I openly show my emotional weaknesses?
- I am supposed to be the pillar of the family. How can I express the anxiety I feel?
It actually takes a lot of courage to talk about issues that go against society's gender norms, but what does it mean to really be a man in your romantic relationship?
1. Embrace insecurities and emotional vulnerability
From numerous psychological studies, it has been concluded that it is very important to express emotions and feelings even when you feel uncomfortable or comfortable to do so. Being authentic, the most original version of you, makes life more meaningful and is one of the factors most likely to lead you to happiness.
So instead of thinking that expressing your emotions is a sign of weakness or that it makes you less of a man, understand that by not straining your sensitivity you increase your power.
2. Invest in your connection
Romantic relationships require constant effort and attention. Just like finance you need to actively invest and deposit consistently for your relationship to grow. Learn how to manage stress. Look for "resurgence" of sparks even if they have faded. Make dates and surprise your partner by giving her quality time more often.
3. Educate yourself about gender norms
Learn and train yourself so that expressing your emotions does not cause you discomfort. Free yourself by letting go of myths. Social norms come with consequences so don't let them affect your relationships and your life. There is no intimate communication if there is no empathy on both sides. Only this can fulfill you.
Source: Psychology Today
