Boundaries in interpersonal relationships are extremely important. Psychologists and mental health experts emphasize that they positively affect our psychological well-being and, ultimately, are essential for personal development and self-care.
However, sometimes the ways in which we set these boundaries can seem “cold” to others, even “rude.” However, these very behaviors help us maintain peace of mind and take better care of ourselves.
Psychologist and cognitive-behavioral psychotherapist Stella Mazi (MSc in Health Psychology) notes that we have the right to politely and respectfully express what puts us in a difficult situation, the question is whether we will actually do so.
Four “inappropriate” behaviors that actually improve self-care:
1. Declining invitations:
Listen to your needs and body and don't hesitate to say no if you don't have the time, interest, or energy to attend an event.
2. Honesty about financial matters:
If something is out of your budget, feel free to share it with friends. There are plenty of ways to celebrate with loved ones without feeling financially embarrassed.
3. 24-hour unavailability:
When was the last time you put your phone on ' mute ' or 'airplane mode'? Just because you can be reached, doesn't mean you have to always be in the mood to answer texts or calls. Protect your boundaries and your free time.
4. Dealing honestly with emotions:
It's better to disappoint someone with a polite refusal than to accept something that overwhelms you emotionally and mentally.
