The fact that partners in a romance cheat, even though he/she is in love with the person of the heart, does not necessarily mean that they seek separation. After all, relationships are complicated. "Often it's because of that individual's dissatisfaction with themselves, rather than with the relationship as a whole," says couples therapist Aurisha Smolarski.
Here are six possible reasons why people cheat, despite the fact that they are in a beautiful romance and happy as a couple.
#1 They have low self-esteem
"Low self-esteem leads to feelings of emptiness, shame, guilt and worthlessness," says psychologist Monica Vermani. Often, these individuals seek attention, affection, and validation from outsiders to boost feelings of self-worth.
#2 They want a dopamine hit
Studies show that new experiences trigger the release of dopamine, a brain chemical that promotes a state of pleasure. Therefore, having sex with a new person can induce high levels of dopamine, i.e. more states of relaxation and pleasure.
#3 They have mismatched sexual needs
Sometimes, when couples are not fulfilled intimately, they look to fulfill their needs and desires outside the home. That's why it's so important to have open and honest conversations about your needs and wants early in the relationship.
#4 They have unresolved trauma from the past
Traumatic experiences from one's past can also lead people to cheat. When one of the partners has grown up in a family where the example of betrayal is accepted, then over the years he/she normalizes it as an issue until it seems completely acceptable and normal.
#5 They feel lonely
If your partner travels often and you find yourself completely alone at home, this situation begins to give you feelings of loneliness, which lead to a possible betrayal to fill this very void.
#6 They can't control their impulses
Impulse control is the ability to resist sudden temptations, and in some people this approach is stronger and more distinct.
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