Whether you've been a victim of ghosting or have done it yourself, you probably know what it's like: when someone suddenly disappears from a relationship without warning, leaving the other person wondering what happened. But if you thought that was the worst thing that could happen, you probably haven't heard of the "evolution" of this phenomenon, called "zombing."
No, it's not about scary zombie movies, even though the name immediately makes you think of that. In fact, "zombing" occurs when a person who has disappeared as a ghost, i.e. has been "ghosting", suddenly reappears as if nothing had happened.
In other words: it disappeared, then "resurrected" and came back into your life.
Why does this happen?
According to experts, the reasons are varied, but the most common is emotional immaturity. The person who does this has often shifted their attention to someone else, but when they get bored or are left alone, they come back to you as if nothing had happened.
Another reason is boredom. According to sexologist Marla Renee Stewart, people who "zombify" often do so out of boredom, wanting to return to someone who once gave them entertainment or attention.
While psychologist Kate Balestrieri explains that behind this behavior lies often a need for attention. They want to see if they still have influence over the other person. They use this as a way to feel valuable again when they are insecure about themselves. There are also those who return just to see if the other person is still hurt or holding a grudge.
How should you react?
The best response to “zombing” is indifference.
Of course, the person who returns will have a “good” excuse for their disappearance, but it’s up to you whether you accept it or not. This kind of behavior shows immaturity and toxicity, and such people have no place in your life.
