As a start, you should know that the good news is that related dramas are 100% avoidable, so there is no room for excuses.
1. Manage the toxic thoughts you have about your partner
If you keep telling yourself that he is irresponsible or lazy, what feelings do you expect to be associated with him? Definitely bad! You will feel as if you are "stuck" with an irresponsible and lazy man. What you can do is focus on his / her good things. It's definitely important to be realistic and have a healthy mindset, but try not to "target" your man by pointing out only the downsides. A good way to deal with such thoughts is to have a long, detailed conversation with yourself.
2. Occasionally make nice little gestures
This will keep your relationship alive and bring you closer to each other. Do not forget to make small gestures every day for him as it may be, cooking your favorite dish, a back massage for a few minutes or listening to his music with him.
3. Pay attention to problematic use of alcohol or drugs
Alcohol and other substances seemingly can create a soothing atmosphere, but mass use will definitely cause unpleasant behaviors, drama and unfiltered words that in most cases hurt.
4. Seek empathy, calmness and constructive conversation
Every time you face a problem, you have to share the responsibility between it. If you continue to blame each other and both of you avoid responsibility, more negative energy and drama will be created. Instead, think of these as actions that you must take on a regular basis before you start blaming them. Calm down, become rational and honest in conversations with him. The more calmly you speak, the less your ego has the power to destroy everything through drama.
Source: Psychology Today
