Growing up with an emotionally abusive parent can be confusing. When you realize this, the way you interpret all your childhood memories can change.
"Emotional abuse is often used instead of 'psychological abuse,'" Carolyn Cole, a psychologist, told Bustle. "Emotional abuse is the abuse of someone in ways that can be seen as traumatic. It can make you feel less valuable or not good enough. ”
6 experts point out some of the signs that may be indicative of an abusive parent:
1. There have been frequent mood swings. This level of stress during growth can bring about changes in the brain and body, which can have long-term effects on health.
2. They have been very critical and negative towards you. As a result, you may find it difficult to speak to yourself in a way that is not negative.
3. Have ignored their emotions. For example, if you tell your parents that you intended to hurt yourself, they will tell you that you are doing it for attention.
4. Have been passive-aggressive: In general, but also with each other, as a couple.
5. Have been overly anxious. If a parent seems anxious and asks for help from their children all the time, chances are the child will grow up with some of that anxiety.
6. They blamed you often and sometimes, for no reason. How much guilt can a child have?
7. You have been ignored for a long time in the form of "punishment".
8. Kanë qenë të pranishëm fizikisht, por jo emocionalisht.
9. Ishin më të përfshirë seç duhet në jetën tënde private. Për shembull: Kontrollonin ditarin tënd, rrjetet sociale, email-et, gjithçka.
10. Ti fajëson veten për sjelljen e keqe të njerëzve të tjerë.
11. Sheh që ke sjellje vetë-shkatërruese (seks i rrezikshën, lëndim i vetes etj).
12. Thellë thellë, ndjen zemërim kundrejt prindërve të tu.
13. Ende ke frikë nga reagimi i prindërve për pjesën më të madhe të vendimeve të tua.
14. Përpiqesh t’i menaxhosh ti emocionet e prindërve, edhe pse kjo është punë e tyre.
15. Je në një marrëdhënie toksike: “Shpesh zgjedhim partnerë që na bëjnë të ndihemi familiarë me ta”, shprehet Tom Bruett, psikolog. “Sigurisht, që mund ta thyejmë ciklin, por hapi i parë është ta vëmë re atë.”
Prepared by Tom Bruett, Carolyn Cole, Jen Elnquist, Christi Garner, Joshua Klapow, Tina B. Tessina.
