Controlling behaviors in a relationship can be hard to spot at first, but it can quickly escalate and become a serious problem. In this article, we'll look at some warning signs that your partner may be more controlling than they should be. By recognizing these signs, you can take steps to protect yourself and your relationship.
1. You are increasingly isolated from friends and family.
Of course, every relationship takes time and you will definitely have to adjust the time. However, if your partner asks you to spend less time with family or friends, sometimes turns you against them, do well to think about these details.
2. You don't have many people to talk to.
A controlling partner tends to think that they are able to meet all of your needs. If you notice that you no longer call your best friend for advice, then you may be dealing with another form of isolation. Be careful.
3. Apologize all the time.
You find yourself apologizing even though you're sure you're not at fault. This is a sign of a controlling partner, as he tries to have all the power in the relationship and, among other things, being critical, manages to address his mistakes to you.
4. I mbani sekrete të kota.
Jeni të vetëdijshme se nuk po bëni asgjë të keqe nëse për shembull pini një kafe me një koleg pune, megjithatë një detaj të tillë ia mbani sekret. Një gjë e tillë tregon frikë nga gjykimi/reagimi dhe është shenjë se ai ju kontrollon më shumë seç duhet.
5. Ai vendos “kushte”.
Ekspertët theksojnë se nëse partneri përdor fjali të tipit “do të dua më shumë nëse i lyen flokët e verdha”, ose “të dua më shumë kur je më e dobët”, është një këmbanë alarmi për marrëdhënien tuaj.
6. Partneri mendon se ka gjithmonë të drejtë.
7. Ju trajton si të ishin fëmijë.
Bëni diferencën mes rregullave dhe kufizimeve që janë një formë mbrojtjeje dhe atyre që dëshmojnë për një dëshirë ekstreme për t’ju kontrolluar në çdo hap.
8. Vendos gjithnjë ai.
Mendimi juaj nuk ka rëndësi pasi “ai i di më mirë disa gjëra”.
9. Keni ZERO privatësi.
If he asks you about your salary, don't worry, tell him. But if it wants to read messages with your friends, check your bank history, laptop history and who you've searched on Instagram, be more careful. All this need for "transparency" is not a good sign.
10. He criticizes you even for the most ordinary things.
We all try to criticize ourselves, but how nice is it to hear your partner criticize you for the smallest things? Not at all.
