Something has been bothering me lately, seeing and hearing all sorts of stories. Strange! Strange things like: "My girlfriend will hold me accountable for everything," "She'll ask for my permission every time she leaves the house," "She'll have as many children as I want."
I apologize in advance for the deserved offense, but ignorance has taken root in your mentality.
Albanian men have a tendency to look for the image of their mother in their partner. The mother who has given everything for her husband and children, to the point where taking care of herself was not even a secondary consideration. The mother who has dedicated herself with all her heart and soul, washing, cooking, serving, and even working as a second income for the family.
Meanwhile, the husband, forgetting his duty as a husband, but most of the time also as a father, is somewhere there, lost on the couch. Lost with a remote control in his hand, neglecting every marital duty.
What about the boy? Somewhere out there, absorbing the example of a minimalist and selfish partner.
So what is a woman like in this boy's eyes? A servant. A woman who has completely abandoned herself. A woman characterized by excessive altruism, who denies her own being. A woman who is extremely tired and emotionally unstable. A woman who is no longer treated as a human being.
What will this guy look for in his future partner? Exactly this woman. A woman he can neglect. Insult her with the minimum of effort he will put into the relationship. The woman who will allow him absurdities like: "Your place is with your family and you don't have time for a personal life anymore."
Moreover, if she seeks to develop a personal, social, or professional life, she will be considered selfish and manipulated into giving up all this "absurdity."
You are little men who do not yet know the meaning of having a partner. And for this very reason, you will never be able to experience pure and selfless love.
Because you are the ones who don't know how to keep and care for your girlfriends and wives. You are the ones who are not capable of creating a minimally safe environment for their feelings and not only that. You are the ones who don't look beyond your own interests and narcissism.
And now excuse me, but are you the ones who have the guts to talk about the "materialism" of today's girls? You?! You who are incapable of providing a healthy language of communication in relationships? You who are incapable of caring for your partner's feelings?
And here's what I'm telling you today: providing your partner, the girl you'll spend your life with, with a home where she can live peacefully and protected is the minimum. Taking care of her and her feelings is the minimum.
Therefore, I would ask you to reflect a little before "infecting" an entire society with your ignorance and cowardice.
- Message received from an anonymous woman on Anabel, in the #Unsent section.
