Everything has an end! Leaving your comfort zone is always difficult, but in many cases it is the right thing to do. It could be a long relationship, aka boring, a job that no longer grows you professionally or a friendship that gives you "headaches."
But what is the best way to leave the past behind and offer yourself the opportunity for new beginnings, let the experts explain!
The end of a romantic relationship
Quite a few people find themselves in a long-term relationship for many years, although they have a hard time listing some reasons why they are still in that relationship. Is love and passion still part of the relationship or just the desire not to "fail" and the fear of ending it?
Experts suggest that this is an essential question to ask yourself if you "smell" that your love affair has lost its function.
"Am I staying out of fear, habit, compulsion, or true love?" This is the question you should ask yourself if you are not sure if you should break up with a partner.
"You may tolerate toxic behavior because you fear what your life will be like without it," says relationship expert Kate Mansfield.
Signs that your relationship may have become unhealthy include a lack of trust, mutual disrespect, and constant arguments, whether about major or minor issues.
"Disagreements over small things are usually a sign of a bigger problem that isn't being openly acknowledged," says Mansfield. "Meanwhile, disrespect can be a sign of submission that actually constitutes abusive behavior," she adds.
Other more obvious signs can be a lack of desire to do things together and feeling tired after interacting with your partner, not getting pleasure from joint activities.
If you feel that your relationship is described by what is written above, we suggest that you talk openly with your partner to make the right decision.
To resign
"Quitting your job isn't the easiest decision to make, but sometimes it's the best thing you can do," says career expert Keren Blackmore.
Reasons that should lead you to this decision include lack of opportunities for professional growth, such as promotion or training opportunities, or being in a toxic environment.
"If you feel like you're not getting the attention you deserve or you've been told you're not going to get what you're aiming for, maybe it's time to look for a new job," says Blackmore.
However, it is not always when you are stressed that you should leave work, such as on Monday morning.
Ending a friendship
If you start to get irritated or annoyed by your friend's opinion or behavior, this may be a sign that your friendship is not in the best of days. This may be accompanied by the thought that you have less in common than before or that you often go out with your girlfriend only because you feel compelled.
Feeling that you don't want to confide in your girlfriend because you don't like the thought or reaction you'll get is another sign that things aren't on track. While we often think of manipulation as belonging to romantic relationships, it can actually be a problem for friendships as well.
"Feeling pressured to behave in ways that don't make you feel good or not hanging out with someone because your friend doesn't like them are signs of an unhealthy friendship," says expert Georgina Sturmer.
However, before you do anything to end the friendship, stop and think if there is any way to solve the problems created.
Are they short-term problems and related to a difficult period that your friend is going through?
If you do decide to end the friendship, be sure to "behave with integrity and kindness," says Sturmer. This means communicating with your friend explaining the reasons for your decision or letting her know that you want to spend less time with her.
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