Ok, time to write. To clarify things. It may have happened to all of us at some point in our lives that someone we had a lot of fun with has suddenly disappeared, in the blink of an eye. Otherwise this is known as ghosting . If you know well how such behavior makes you feel, do not practice it with others. Even when the date just doesn't work out, or when the other person just isn't into you. Coping is simpler than the burden you have to carry when playing Casper.
Instead of disappearing, do well to respect yourself and learn to look people in the eye even when all you want to do is walk away. How to do this? Here are some anti-ghosting messages to keep in mind next time. As painful as these messages may initially sound to the recipient, they are less so than just ~disappearing~.
1.
"Good thing we went out for drinks yesterday. I had a lot of fun, but to be honest I didn't feel any romantic emotion between us and I don't want to waste your time. Good luck."
2.
"I've really enjoyed getting to know you these past few weeks, but I don't think our relationship is going to grow into anything more, and I want to be honest about that. I'm open to company anyway, if you ever want to." let's go out for a drink."
3.
"I know you mentioned you're looking for something casual, but I've been thinking and that's not what I have in mind right now. It's best that we each go our separate ways and not waste each other's time- the other."
4.
"The last few outings have been super fun and I'm glad I met you, but I don't know if we're really compatible as guys. I think we'll end it here, but I wish you the best."
5.
"I didn't get any kind of romantic energy from our dates and I know we're both really looking to feel something. You're amazing anyway!"
Having said that, neither accept nor practice ghosting as a social norm. It's these honest, mature things that we do that set us apart from each other and at the end of the day leave the flavor that they do.
Source: Cosmopolitan
