The last to speak openly on this topic was Sofia Vergara, who admitted that the separation from her husband came for this reason: "He wanted children, while I didn't."
But what to do if you happen to find yourself in this situation? Dr. Teresa Capparelli, psychotherapist, spoke about this topic in a statement to Vogue and gave some advice to those who have found themselves in this predicament.
According to Dr. Teresa, it is important to talk from the beginning about such an important issue as that of having children. According to her, a conversation at the beginning of the relationship does not leave much space for further debates, moreover, there may be the possibility that the decision will change over time.
"Whether or not you want children is a very personal and delicate matter. Both wishes are valid because there is no universal and right answer to this topic. But, in a relationship it is important to understand where each of the decisions comes from, showing understanding and having communication", emphasizes Dr. Capparelli.
According to her, if one of the partners expresses the desire not to have children, one must understand where it comes from, whether it is from the fear of stability, loss of freedom, or the traumatic past in some form of influence. It can also be simply the desire of the individual which again deserves understanding and calm discussion.
Even on the contrary, it is likely that the desire for children comes from the social pressure around the person in question. In any case understanding is the key.
Is there a way to overcome this deadlock?
Counseling with a therapist is one of the most effective ways to solve this problem.
It is also worth mentioning that in this situation it is very important how much space there is for negotiation between the two partners.
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