Even if you don't have feelings anymore, checking your ex on social media often becomes an addiction and it's hard to stop.
The next time you feel the urge to check your ex's social media, consider trying these first:
1. Wait 5 minutes. The first moment you think of looking for his Instagram name, stop for a moment and try to wait 5 minutes (taking your phone out of your hands or looking at something else on your phone). Gradually increase the time, until you are completely out of your mind.
2. Consider the following questions:
- How did you feel the last time you saw their profile?
- If you were trying to support a friend in a similar situation to yours, what would you tell them to do instead?
- Is their profile really that interesting, or are you giving it importance by looking at it with a different eye?!
3. Find a substitute activity and make a plan ahead of time.
Enlist the help of a trusted friend or family member and text them instead of checking your ex's social media.
Think of an activity that feels realistic and manageable to do while delaying the urge to check your ex's information.
Shkruani planin tuaj dhe mbajeni para jush për t'iu referuar kur të jetë e nevojshme. Për shembull: "Herën tjetër që do ndjej dëshirën për të kontrolluar Instagramin e tij, do t'u dërgoj mesazh/u telefonoj njerëzve të mëposhtëm/bëj këtë aktivitet)."
4. Focus on the reasons why the connection did not work. Reflect on the reasons for ending the relationship. Most likely, as painful as it is, there are some valid reasons why it ended. Focusing primarily on the positive memories associated with the relationship is likely to intensify feelings of heartbreak and prevent you from having a balanced view of the relationship. Many people have a tendency to focus on the positive memories after a breakup, which increases their suffering and causes them to overlook the negative aspects of the relationship.
Source: Psychology Today
