The decision to have a child is one of the biggest and most transformative steps in a relationship. From schedules to finances, from parenting to emotional support, every detail matters.
Instead of agreeing "down the road," why not discuss them now, before things get serious? These 20+ questions will help you figure out if you're headed in the same direction.
1. Why do you want to have children with me?
2. How much free time will we have for each other as a couple and for the family?
3. How do you currently manage money and how will we manage it together when a baby arrives?
4. How will we save/invest for our children's education?
5. How do you view rules and discipline?
6. What happens if I don't get pregnant soon?
7. In what ways do you think we will support our child?
8. If the baby has health problems, what will we do?
9. How will we divide parenting duties?
10. Where will we live and raise our children?
11. Will we need help? From whom and for how long?
12. I know we will only consume healthy foods after their arrival, right?
13. What is the ideal way to give birth, according to you?
14. Would it be a problem if the children slept in the room/bed with us?
15. In the event of a disaster, who will take care of the children?
16. How strict should we be as parents?
17. Public or private school?
18. How would you react if your child had a sexual orientation different from your expectations?
19. How will we keep our relationship alive after the baby arrives?
20. How do you imagine your life 1 year after the birth of a child? What about after 5 years?
21. What scares you most about becoming a parent?
22. How will you support me emotionally during pregnancy and after birth?
23. Will we post photos of the child on social media?
24. How would you feel if pregnancy brought major changes to my body and health?
25. If we have to sacrifice one partner's career for child care, how will we decide?
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