"He also exercised psychological violence; I was persuaded that I was disgusting with my behavior because if you were against your mother, you were like that. ... She is now bored of why I do not call her every day, and she says "soul, heart," so far as I feel disgust, I do not want to hear it.

I would like to crash into my face, remember every beating, every detail, every word; to know I did not forget anything. I would like to talk to a psychologist, let him leave behind, forgive and forgive, but I can not. "- this paragraph is broken off in a letter that has arrived in our editorial office .

This mother-daughter relationship, which is accompanied by trauma throughout the child's life (as in the case of a girl), may actually come from the mother's problems with the personality.

Psychologists say that when one of the parents suffers from personality disorder, the challenge for children is twice as difficult. Especially when it comes to the mother. How do we know if our mother suffers from such a disorder?

1. It tends to split the family

She will always feel important and at the first moment you do not include it, it will go against you. If you have a sister or brother, it can reach as far as telling things that will put you against each other.

2. Always use the technique of silence

Silence tactics are very much used for people who want to punish and control. Such a method is used more by mothers who have problems with their personality. You can notice something like this when you say it is wrong and choose not to follow its advice.

3. Do not "know the boundaries".

Mothers suffering from personality disorders do not know the limits. There is no such thing as privacy for them. She will know everything about your life. You should know this to set some boundaries, otherwise you will feel manipulated, trapped, and all the time under pressure.

4. Do nothing but criticize!

If you grow up with a subtitling that criticizes or controls your decisions, you will never learn to trust yourself.

5. Her feelings come before other careers

If your mother does things that contradict the instincts of kindness, she probably has problems. At some point you see it jealous of you, tries to compete and put its comfort in front of you. These are not signs of a normal mother-daughter relationship.

All we mentioned above do not make your mother "bad man", but obviously a person who needs help. You can not do anything to change it, but it is!