"I am 44 years old and for many years I have not had sex for 22 years." In my twenties, I began to be mentally disturbed and abused with the substances, and the treatments that gave me then influenced my sexual desire. partner, just a fixed pornographic diet.

Since then, I have given up smoking, alcohol, caffeine and illegal drugs. I even started exercising and lost 15kg.

Last year, miraculously, I slept with a friend and colleague - ending this, two decades without sex. It was like giving the bike. He never forgets what you've learned.

Where's the problem? When I lost my virginity for the second time, I found out I do not like sex anymore. In retrospect, I realized I never liked it.

It is almost impossible to go into orgasm by penetration and suffer from what is called late ejaculation. Even when it comes to orgasm, it is neither enjoyable nor intense experience.

I had the same problems with every partner, but I'm sure the medication has worsened the situation.

My colleague was delighted by me and I enjoyed delighting her before the times. We had something together, but our romance ended amicably when both of us decided to move forward.

I think sex is important for a happy life - and so I want to find a way to enjoy me. Maybe I should go to therapy and find a partner. I just hope I do not need 22 more years. "

Written by an anonymous man for The Guardian