Everyone has a sexual past. Life experiences have made us the people we are today. Whenever you are in a new relationship, your sexual past can often become a topic of discussion. Of course, what you share with your partner is a personal matter.
Veronica Vaiti, a couples therapist, says that this is an essential discussion that all couples should have, especially in the early stages of a relationship, without fear of rejection or judgment. What you should consider.
Don't mention numbers: The number is yours alone. Vaiti says this can bring up a range of feelings, moral judgments and insecurities for each partner.
Talk about sexually transmitted diseases (STDs): If you have a sexually transmitted disease you can talk about it. If you ask questions that your partner doesn't answer, then there's something to discuss, according to Vailti. "If your partner doesn't respect how you feel, then it speaks to a bigger issue." In other words, when he is not ready to share this information, it is better not to create intimate relations for the time being. If you have had an illness from which you have fully recovered, it is not advisable to share this information.
Suggest you both get checked for STDs: It's 100% safe sex. One way is by discussing the last time you had a check-up with a doctor and asking him about the same. If you don't feel safe being intimate with someone who doesn't want to be controlled, you have the right to withdraw.
Discuss the type of birth control protection you will use: When you are using the pill, let your partner know. If he insists on not using a condom, it's up to you to ensure yourself.
Source: Glamour
