'Overthinking' is one of the most encountered problems in the relationship with oneself, but also with the person of the heart. You may often find yourself thinking about negative situations, even though they haven't happened yet, or most likely won't happen at all.
Many dilemmas, question marks, "what if?" and endless thoughts that you can't stop and suddenly you start acting on those thoughts, annoying yourself and others around you. But there are some ways to stop 'overthinking' and keep your feet on the ground.
Accept your thoughts
“Without recognizing and accepting our thoughts, we will not be able to challenge them. Your feelings are always valid and you should often remind yourself of this", says sexologist Lilith Foxx, who advises not to contradict the thoughts you have in such a situation.
Remind yourself of what's really going on
When your mind starts to not separate reality from imagination, recall the facts and stay in the present. Some experts suggest that you visualize a "STOP" sign that stops you and brings you back to where you are, with the facts in front of you.
Challenge your thoughts
What if the situation were different? According to psychologist Elena Touroni, you should think to yourself: "Is it a fact or an opinion that I have about the situation?". If you are dealing with facts, calm down and think about how you can solve the problem; if it's an opinion, think positive scenarios too. Test and challenge yourself by changing the narrative.
Get distracted
Once you're back in the present, shift your attention elsewhere. If in your relationship you are the person who plans, try to plan a romantic meeting or a trip, because you deserve it! Or at other times, watch a comedy, or read a lemonade book.
Communicate as much as possible!
Lack of communication is often the foundation of 'overthinking' and one of the most common problems encountered in a romantic relationship. Always communicate with your partner so that you have a clear idea of ??what is going on and don't have unrealistic thoughts about the situation.
Practice self-care
Qoftë përmes kujdesit të lëkurës, meditimit, shkrimit të mendimeve, apo dëgjimit të një podkasti motivues, praktiko kujdesin ndaj vetes, mendjes dhe dëshirave të tua.
Kur është momenti që ndoshta duhet të konsiderosh konsultimin me një terapist?
Ndonjëherë, të praktikosh metodat e mësipërme ndoshta nuk është mjaftueshëm dhe të duhet një ndihmë profesionale.Kur është momenti i duhur për ta bërë këtë?
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Kërkon aprovimin dhe validimin e partnerit/es
‘Overthinking’ po ndikon në jetën tënde të përditshme, në punë dhe në marrëdhëniet me të tjerët
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