In some cases, for various reasons, a parent does not agree with the choice of partner with whom the daughter/son has decided to tie/engage/marry.
We come across such issues often and recently, even publicly (Sabiani, who does not approve of Keisi's relationship with Kristi Aliaj, exploded at him and unfollowed the girl), so it seems appropriate to give you some advice:
Understand that it is his/her life and not yours
We agree that you should give your opinion, want the best for it and think that no one can achieve it, but also understand your limits. The fact that you brought him to life does not mean that you decide with whom he will share his life.
I spoke my mind respectfully
If you don't like something (or many things) about your girl/boy's partner, then say it, without passive-aggressive approach, without pins and without insulting the other person. Be respectful and specify what your opinion is!
Avoid ultimatums
Ultimatums are requests that should be avoided in many relationships, especially on such a delicate subject. You cannot put someone under such pressure of choice by asking them the question "Me or him/her", because:
It is possible to choose it;
Your relationship will fall apart;
The child will be held hostage for a very long time;
You will wake up trauma.
Say your displeasure just once!
That's enough to make your opinion and attitude clear. Once and never again!
Know when to back off from this discussion
As we said above, they are adults and if you follow and teach them the same subject, there will not be a good conclusion. Try to have a correct relationship with the other person and always be warm with your daughter and son.
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