As you think about the most common causes of divorce, you probably come across incredibly dramatic debates, such as betrayal, financial mismatches, sex discrepancies, and opposing angles for the future. From my perspective, these conflicts originate from small choices that make people increasingly disconnect from each other.
In Tom Wolfe's book, "The Vanity Fire," one character shows as a bankrupt and another character asks, "Tim, how are you bankrupt?" My Tim responds, "I've forgiven everyone else, slow, slowly, then instantly, and there are lots of stuff until the storm hits."
What little things does that mean? For the sad face, when partner / ra needs you. For that negligence, for the lack of attention at times. They are small things, but become big as time goes by.
Such a sentence - though it may seem strange - best describes the way the reports work, though they may face obvious changes. Success does not come overnight and neither does a relationship fail to close the eye. Every day there are continuous obstacles that grow months after month and year after year. It is only the outward appearance of the situation, not the roots of the problem.
I'm romantic, but I do not believe in fairy tales. I think we show others some things that make up the feeling of love. We stop the lover very slowly. It's a gradual process. It adds to your weight but does not wake up in the morning with ten kilograms more. You add to weight slowly, but adds. It's the same thing with love. Prevention lies in the actions, however small they are. So act. If you want your link to work, you need to continually correct yourself.
- Adapted by a divorce lawyer James J. Sexton's 2018 interview to Vox.
