We are very familiar with ghosting, but you should know that there is also a new, very unpopular term: "sitting on the bench".
What does it consist of?
With the fact that you're dating someone, but you're not at all interested and just keep it on the bench (like CR7 at the World Cup) while you wait for someone who meets your requirements to show up. Technically, at the same time, it takes the time and dedication of the person who keeps it on the "bench", sending flirtatious messages, teasing or seducing them in different ways.
In short, "sitting on the bench" is a plan B and you know that the person is there for you and you know this, you even take advantage of this fact.
Is it a red flag?
Of course yes! If a person "holds you in suspense", while not providing you with any sense of security and stability, then maybe you should not "stay on the bench" anymore, since most likely, the emotions of the person in question are not going to change. Even if you are "putting someone on the bench", maybe it's time to consider the other person's feelings as well.
What are the signs that show that he is "sitting on the bench"?
Disconnection or communication from nothing
Communication for a very short time
Lack of meetings
Reluctance to know you
I don't know you with friends
