Ever since people first saw the 2004 film "The Notebook", they have created another glimpse of romance and inspiration, hoping that somewhere out there and for them a "Noah" or "Allie" that will will with the same intensity out there.
The scene where Ryan Gosling's and Rachel McAdams's kiss in the middle of the rain is iconic and their characters' statements make people think that true love has that look. In fact, couple relations experts say this movie so dear to us is not a good example of what a relationship should be like.
Why? For all the reasons below!
1. The whole story is far from reality
Experts think the connection the characters had was unrealistic. Noah, writing letters to his girlfriend every day for a year, builds her dream home, but in fact they didn't know each other well. They had spent only 3 months alone as lovers. Their story simply raises people's expectations about the look of the perfect partner.
Then, many years after not seeing each other, celebrities meet and spend the rest of their lives happy. What we see in the film is attraction and passion. These elements are not enough to keep a relationship alive for many years.
2. The "perfect" husband was not in fact such.
If there is one movie couple that seems extremely romantic to us, it's Noah and Allie. In fact, experts view Noah's behavior and actions with a marked lack of respect. He refuses "NO" in response and threatens to kill himself if she refuses to go out with him.
3. Their romantic relationship is in fact toxic.
The film states that Noah and Allie are constantly quarreling and never agreeing on anything. During quarrels they would either scream or hit each other. These are signs of an abusive and toxic relationship, but they normalize the situation by saying that they love each other so much and those squabbles are normal.
Apart from "The Notebook" there are several other films that experts call harmful to a real relationship between a couple.
Dirty Dancing, Grease, Notting Hill, and The Lobster are some of the romantic movies that, according to experts, should be on the list of must-see movies. "Dirty Dancing", for example, tells of a relationship where a woman has to depend on a man to wait for him to come to her rescue rather than face her own problems.
Source: TimeOut
