She finds herself sitting on the sofa of an apartment belonging to a handsome man, with ordered food and a series on TV. Then a message comes. A message from him, your ex. The one who saw you off politely after your last breakfast together. The one you made up excuses for to stay a few minutes longer, hoping he would realize he was still in love with you.
Five years have passed without any contact, and his name on the phone screen looks like an optical illusion. You need a second to process it, to remember why those few words still caused this reaction. And there you are, with your heart beating so hard you think the handsome man in the room can hear it.
The message is simple: "How are you?". After debating with yourself for 12 hours whether to ignore it or not, you end up answering it. To your surprise, he proposes a friendly, platonic date. And this is where the dilemma begins: to accept it or not?
Why not?
Your friends will probably tell you not to. Going back to an ex is often seen as a mistake. But maybe the comeback isn't as bad as we think. Often, when we meet an ex, we not only return to him as a person, but also to an earlier version of ourselves. That version may have had its flaws, but it can teach you a lot about who you were and who you are today.
There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to exes. Besides, time is an illusion, and the stories of our lives are not always linear. Sometimes, we dwell on the past to better understand the present. A friendly drink does not necessarily mean a romantic return. It's simply a way to see how far you've come and learn something new.
What can happen in such a meeting?
Maybe you wear your old perfume, the one you haven't worn since 2018. When he notices and mentions it, you can laugh and tell him you did it on purpose, to trigger the memories. The conversation can flow strangely harmoniously, as if the last five years had never passed.
Is it a risk? Yes, but…
It's true that meeting an ex is always an exciting adventure, filled with the unknown. But maybe these unknowns can teach you important lessons. Therefore, if you receive such an invitation, do not immediately refuse it. It might just be a sweet reminder of how much you've grown and how far you've come.
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