The feeling or desire to bite your partner is actually super common and has its roots in evolutionary biology.
It turns out that this is an evolutionary side effect known as "delightful aggression". And, to be clear, it has nothing to do with the desire to ~ eat partner a partner. Rather, "it has to do with the desire to bite, squeeze someone based on experiencing love for him, not wanting to hurt him," explains Dr. Nazanin Moali, a clinical psychologist and host of the Sexology podcast.
In fact, "cute aggression" happens even when you see a cute puppy or a small baby.
According to Moal, something called "dimorphic expression" is at the root of these contradictory feelings. The dimorphic expression is when someone who feels a strong emotion expresses the opposite emotion. That is, you feel overwhelmed by love and joy at something "delightful" - and you feel the urge to bite, as a way of showing the love said. The bite is an aggressive expression of love.
Studies show that the manifestation of "delightful aggression" can be a form of emotional regulation. The feelings are so strong that we do not even know what to do with them. And so, we bite.
Biting partners in an erotic way
The sexual aggression we feel towards our partners (and the subsequent desire to bite them), is another form of "cute aggression". Essentially, passion makes us bite.This desire erupts from the intensity of the passion and excitement we feel towards our partners when we light up.
Plus, biting is just fun when sex is involved.
"Biting can feel good because it is an intense experience," says Zachary Zane, a sexologist. "So when you alternate between a light touch and a bite, it's a way to increase arousal and pleasure."
Moreover, some people may be sexually aroused by seeing the marks of their teeth on their body or that of their partner. This may reflect some sense of sexual dominance or ownership. Traces of the bite can also be seen as evidence of passion and desire, a concrete display of an inner feeling.
In short, in an increased state of awakening, pain can often be felt as pleasure. Our nerve endings are in high readiness and so is sexual desire and the great need to tear our partner's clothes.
Source: InsideHook
