In a relationship, especially a romantic one, it is important to be attentive to the “red flags” that can appear from time to time, whether in the form of a look, a word spoken with contempt or a promise that is never fulfilled. If you have followed “Big Brother VIP” long enough, you can agree with us that some of Gjesti’s – one of the most talked about characters of this edition – behaviors leave room for discussion.
Of course, Gjesti, like all of us, is a human being with his strengths and weaknesses, so in this article we are here to analyze, not judge. Here is an analysis of his behaviors that are red flags in a relationship.
1. The threat to Paradise
During his stay at "Big Brother VIP Kosovo", Gjesti addressed Xheneta, his former partner, saying: "You've done things to me, don't show them here. I know you like the doggy position."
This statement is serious for several reasons. First, using private information as a weapon in an argument is manipulative and constitutes a form of psychological pressure. Second, such a comment is intended to humiliate the other person in front of others, placing them in a vulnerable position. In a healthy relationship, communication is based on respect, and privacy is protected and not used as a weapon.
2. Punishment through silence
Another red flag behavior of Gesti is the way he recently treated Egli by completely ignoring her, even when she persistently asked for clarification. This behavior, known as the silent treatment , is not simply a way to take time to reflect, but a form of emotional control. When someone questions you, ignores you, and refuses to communicate, they are asserting their power over your feelings, making you feel insignificant. This is a strategy that creates insecurity and despair in the other party.
3. Suspicious Signals – One day "go away", one day "come sleep with me"
"We just sleep together, I kiss her on the neck and forehead, that's all," Gjesti told Egli. When someone sends you mixed signals, it's a sign that they're either not sure about what they want, or they're playing with your emotions. One day they tell you to leave, the next day they invite you to sleep with them. This kind of behavior is tiring and creates insecurity in the other person, Egli. A healthy relationship is based on consistency and clarity, not on "love me, don't love me" games.
4. Hand Grasping – Sign of Pressure?
Another moment that can be analyzed is when Egli had broken their game and Gesti grabs her by the arm and then touches her hand, a behavior where it seems like he is exerting pressure. In relationships, physical contact can be a form of expressing affection, but it all depends on the context. If it is used as a way to impose a decision or to exercise dominance over the other, then it is no longer an expression of love, but a strategy, albeit unconscious, to control someone.
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5. Romantic Dedications – True Love or Emotional Manipulation?
Another action that could not go unnoticed is when Gjesti wrote a letter to his ex-girlfriend, Diellza, while leaving open the possibility of a relationship with Eglin. This type of action sends a mixed message, both to Eglin and to others who might see it, including Diellza. The dedications that someone makes to ex-partners are a way to maintain an emotionally open connection with them, hinting that they are not completely ready to move on.
6. Egli as "servant"
One of the clearest signs of an unequal relationship is when one person starts to take on the role of "parent" or "servant" in the relationship. In this case, Egli takes care of every detail of Gjesti's life on "Big Brother VIP," from washing to folding clothes. When one person starts to take all the responsibilities, while the other simply takes them for granted, then we are dealing with an unhealthy dynamic. A balanced relationship is based on reciprocity, not exploitation.
In conclusion, it should be noted that this analysis is based only on what we see on the screen and it is important to keep in mind that it does not provide a complete picture of the dynamics. The screen, as we know, sometimes does not tell the whole story. But it may also be that everything we see is just the tip of the iceberg.
