
Personal boundaries are important in every aspect of life, but especially in the sexual realm. Setting boundaries helps you feel safe, comfortable, and respected, making the experience more enjoyable for both partners. Communication is key, and often all it takes is a little courage to say what you really feel.
Below are some simple and straightforward ways to set your boundaries in different situations:
When the position is uncomfortable
Yes, it's totally okay to say this: "This position isn't making me feel good. Can we try another one?"
When your partner wants you to experiment with something you don't agree with
These expressions are clear and gentle:
- "I don't think we should experiment with..."
- "Actually, I'm not feeling very comfortable with..."
When you're just not in the mood
The desire for intimacy changes from day to day: "I'm not in the mood for sex. Can we just sit and cuddle while watching a movie?"
When your partner does something that hurts you, causes you pain, or does it without your consent
Stronger words are needed here: "Never do that again! Not without discussing it first!"
When he claims he 'has no condom for his big penis'
No reason is valid for unprotected sex: "I don't have sex without a condom!"



