How to stop being his "best friend" when you're actually going to be his girlfriend

You help, you listen, you're there when it's bad, but you've started to feel. Your relationship has neither flirtation nor romance - only emotional support. And no matter how beautiful the spiritual connection is, you're not here to hold someone's hand who doesn't know how to hold yours.

If you want more – you have to stop giving everything, when you're getting nothing but vague gratitude. 

1. Gives warmth, but not more than that

You are naturally caring and sensitive, but there is a golden rule here: give as much as you get. No more.

If he only complains but never asks how you are: stop being his therapist.

If you talk every day, but he avoids romantic or future topics: don't waste time building a relationship that only exists in your head.

If you feel like you're emotionally naked, and he's not: back off.

2. Stop being his "safe zone" when he hasn't given you any status.

We have this habit – of becoming a man's "home" before he has accepted us as a partner. We give love, warmth, listening, support... while he has made no effort to really get to know you.

Don't always be available just because he's having a "hard day."

Fact: Real relationships start to build after the second month – and it takes time to get to know someone. If they don't give you time, opportunity, or investment – ??they're not a partner, they're an emotional passenger.

3. Say what you want, without shame

Yes, you may feel a little shy when he doesn't return your affection with the same intensity, but it's better to know now than to wait forever.

If he's not interested in the same thing, he'll leave on his own. And that's a win, not a loss.

4. Protect your emotions

If you feel like you're giving more than you're getting, stop. You're not his emotional outlet when he's never asked you how you feel.

5. Don't mess with emotionally open but emotionally unavailable guys.

Just because he cries, opens up, or talks about his feelings doesn't mean he's ready for love. Some men feel better when they share the burden with someone, but that doesn't mean they love you.

Be careful if he:

He is very present with messages, but he doesn't plan anything concrete;

Talks a lot about himself, but doesn't really invest in you;

It keeps everything in a fog: no titles, no direction, no clarity.

6. Allow yourself to lose those who don't respond to you with the same energy.

When you set standards for yourself, those who can't meet them will leave you on their own. And that's a blessing – not a disaster.

If you have a big heart, you're probably used to giving, helping, and making room for others. But one day you'll realize that the people you truly love don't make you tired of feeling loved.

Just remember this: He who loves shows his love — not just with sweet words, but with his constant and clear presence.

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_{Source: Your Tango}