Last week, three women spoke on “The Dalina Show” about the invisible wounds that have haunted them for years. Their stories were true and emotionally devastating – but above all, they were necessary. In this second installment, these women speak more deeply about the trauma, the aftermath, and their struggles to move forward.
Zana – Her father's suicide haunts her even today
Zana, who in the last episode shared the story of her father's suicide when she was 16, returns this week to talk about the impact this tragedy had on her brother.
"My brother lives outside of Kosovo now. He's never had therapy, he's never spoken to a professional, but I really think he needs it. He urgently needs treatment and to talk to someone," she said.
The event that happened before his eyes has haunted him for a long time.
"Today I am very afraid that one of us will commit such an act. I am more afraid for my brother, because he is always there, in front of my eyes."
Guilt is a feeling that doesn't leave him alone even today:
"As a family we felt guilty – how could we not understand Dad's pain? How could we not be there to help him, to talk to him? I still feel this guilt today."
She is struggling between reason and feelings:
"A more selfish side says: how come you weren't stronger? Today I can't imagine leaving my daughter alone... But not every brain processes pain the same way. You can't judge."
He has realized that love for family is not always greater than personal pain:
"I think I want to put aside judgment and consider his pain, because it was stronger than his love for us. It's not that he didn't love us, but how he was going through such great pain."
In the end, Zana gives us a message that applies to every broken soul:
"One thing to keep in mind: forgive them. We cannot judge them. Forgive others and forgive yourself, first of all."
Eva Rusi - The rape of the girl that left her deeply traumatized
Eva, a mother of three, recounts the darkest chapter of her life: the moment her eldest daughter, just 17 years old, was raped in a disco during the summer holidays in 2021.
"When she came back, she told me she had broken up with her fiancé because he had 'betrayed' her. It was very different. She told me she wanted to meet her ex-boyfriend to make amends, and I said 'ok'. A few hours later they took me from the hospital. She didn't want me to go. I didn't sleep all night."
For the first time, Eva felt a pain that was immeasurable:
"When the ambulance took him, after two hours they told us he was alive. It was like a miracle. I wanted to die too. The pain was so great."
The girl was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder . She was hospitalized several times in a psychiatric hospital. Finally, she was placed in a rehabilitation community.
“Aty filloi transformimi. Nga ilaçet nisi të ndryshonte, por edhe emocioni i saj doli më në pah. Vetëm një vit më vonë vendosi të denonconte abuzuesin. Dhe megjithatë, pati një tjetër tentativë vetëvrasjeje.”
Eva nisi edhe vetë terapi.
“Isha shumë e zemëruar me jetën. Gjuajta murin sa më dhembën duart. Por jeta më dha një partner të ri shumë të mirë. Kam një vit e gjysmë me të. Ai dhe dy shoqet e mia më kanë ndihmuar shumë.”
Ky është zëri i një nëne që s’u dorëzua, edhe kur nuk dinte ku të mbështetej më. Një nënë që kuptoi se për të shpëtuar fëmijën, duhej të shpëtonte edhe veten.
Alda – Abuzimet seksuale të babai që i vodhën fëmijërinë
Alda rrëfen një nga historitë më tronditëse: ngacmimi seksual nga babai i saj, që nisi kur ajo ishte vetëm 10 vjeç.
“Në fillim mendoja se më donte. Pastaj e kuptova. Fillova të mbyllesha. Në moshën 14 vjeç ia tregova një shoqeje, por si histori të dikujt tjetër – dhe ajo s’më besoi.”
Babai ishte përbindëshi i shtëpisë.
“Dinte vetëm të na dhunonte, të na kërcënonte me thikë, të na ngacmonte seksualisht. Ishte një tmerr i përditshëm. Mami e dinte, por s’kishte fuqi të reagonte. E dhunonte dhe atë.”
E fejuan në moshën 16-vjeçare, mendonte se do të çlirohej, por asgjë s’ndryshoi.
“Edhe kur e la alkoolin, s’e la abuzimin. E kuptova që është psikopat. Edhe sot, i hap telefonin vetëm që të mos dhunojë mamin.”
Edhe pse është nënë, bashkëshorti i saj nuk e di të vërtetën.
“Kam frikë nga reagimi. Dhe tani më duket vonë për t’ia thënë. Kur ika nga babai, shkova tek vjehrrit dhe u ktheva në një shërbëtore. Fillova të urreja burrat, të kisha frikë nga burri im, nga vjehrri. Punova në fasoneri, qaja përditë.”
Pastaj ndodhi kthesa.
“Një ditë, vëllai më uli në kafe dhe më tha: ‘E di çfarë babai kemi. Mjafton që ti të mos qash më. Ta rris unë vajzën.’ Aty ndryshoi gjithçka.”
Tani, Alda është më e fortë. Por dhimbja s’ka ikur.
“Vetëm babait s’i bëj dot ballë. E kam shumë frikë. Dëshira më e madhe është që të zhduket nga kjo botë.”
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