The "good girl" syndrome is a psychological and social phenomenon that primarily affects women, leading them to constantly seek the approval of others, avoid conflict, and sacrifice their own needs to serve others. This complex is often rooted in the upbringing and social expectations that shape the behavior of individuals who experience it.
What are the signs of good girl syndrome?
According to experts, some of the most common signs of this syndrome include:
- Perfectionism and excessive self-demand: The feeling of needing to always be perfect in every aspect of life.
- Difficulty setting boundaries: The desire to please others often leads to difficulty saying "no" and defending personal needs.
- Fear of conflict and rejection: Avoidance of any situation that could lead to conflict or disapproval.
- Low self-esteem and dependence on the approval of others: Self-esteem is based primarily on the reactions of others, making the individual feel worthless without external approval.
- Always being available to others: Putting the needs of others above personal ones, often sacrificing one's own well-being.
How does this syndrome affect the lives of individuals?
Good girl syndrome can lead to:
- Stress and anxiety: Constantly trying to please others and avoid conflicts can cause emotional and physical strain.
- Lack of healthy boundaries: Difficulty saying "no" can lead to exploitation and abuse by others.
- Relationship problems: Lack of open communication and expression of personal needs can damage intimate and social relationships.
- Low self-esteem: Basing self-esteem on external approval can lead to feelings of insecurity and inadequacy.
How can good girl syndrome be treated?
Psychologist Jonarda Kërkuti, during a discussion on "The Dalina Show" by Andale Media, identified this syndrome in one of the callers, Jehona , emphasizing that:
"It seems to me that they have created what is called the good girl syndrome in the family."
To address this syndrome, experts recommend:
- Awareness and personal reflection: Recognizing behavioral patterns and understanding their sources.
- Setting healthy boundaries: Learning to say “no” and to protect personal needs and desires.
- Practicing self-care: Engaging in activities that promote physical and emotional well-being, such as exercise, meditation, and other hobbies.
- Seeking professional support: Consulting with therapists or counselors to address deep emotional issues and develop healthy skills to manage relationships and self-esteem.
