How many times have you started a big fight just from a word of mouth? A completely innocent question that made your partner furious, who knows why? Maybe you asked one of the forbidden questions below:
1. Are we related?
No one will ask this question, especially at the beginning of a relationship. Men are shy of commitment, they are like children, while women think longer about love, marriage, eternal happiness. Men are told to be strong, independent, that they don't need anyone, that they shouldn't cry, to be stoic.
But in any relationship, it's important to be on the same page, so this question needs to be asked. Instead, try saying "what are we?" in a confident tone, without sounding negative or needy. You're your own boss and can do without him, but since you don't have time to waste, things need to be made clear: "what are we?"
2. How much do you earn?
The topic of money should be discussed in a relationship, and it's best to have it as a conversation early in the relationship. You need to know if you're both equally ambitious, or what kind of future you'll have together. But instead of asking "how much do you make?" you can sweetly say: "I'd love to go to Barcelona, ??but I'm really busy these days. How do you manage to travel so often?"
3. What did your ex-girlfriend look like? Was she nice?
Or even worse, "better than me?" It's normal to be curious, but he might feel tense, especially if his previous relationship was serious. According to relationship experts, such topics should be avoided, but be smart and get information in other ways.
For example, you know that the two of them were on vacation together in Italy, ask him about Italy and the culture there, that way he will bring up information about his past and hopefully you won't feel bad when you remind yourself that he had a life before you.
4. Where do you see us in five years?
This is not a question you should ask your partner because it is very stressful, but if you are in a long and established relationship, the time will come for you to ask it. But, rephrase it a little as a question. Ask him about his goals in life, where he will live, what his plans are regarding his career. This is a good way to find out his plans in life and if you are part of them.
5. When will I meet your parents?
This question is a tricky one, especially depending on the relationship your partner has with their parents. If they haven't had a great relationship, don't expect to meet their parents anytime soon. If their relationship is close, almost social, then you can expect to meet them. But introduce them to your parents first, so they know the time has come.
6. What are you going to eat/do for dinner today?
This question is so simple, but you know that sometimes it can open up a debate for no reason. This is because your partner is tired at work and can't decide, being too mentally overloaded. To make it easier, divide the tasks. One week you choose what to eat or what activities to do, the next week your partner does.
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