In the modern dating world, "almost, but not quite" relationships — or "almost relationships" or "situationships" as they're also known — have become commonplace. These relationships create emotional confusion: you're together, but not officially. To keep your feet on the ground and avoid premature emotional attachment, therapists recommend some healthy habits.
Here are six practices that can help you:
1. Set clear boundaries from the beginning
Clarity at the beginning avoids misunderstandings later. Make it clear what you expect and what you won't accept. This includes sharing values, needs, and goals. Boundaries aren't just for long-term relationships — they're necessary for short-term ones, too.
2. Learn to say “no”
Many people feel guilty when they say no. But saying “no” is essential to maintaining personal integrity. Don't cross your boundaries to please the other person — it will only hurt you emotionally.
3. Manage expectations
If the relationship lacks commitment from the other party, behave accordingly. Don't display behavior that resembles a deep connection if that's not what you're looking for. Unspoken expectations create disappointment and confusion.
4. Face the truth, without illusions
If you're in this relationship just for fun, don't fool yourself into thinking it's going to be more. Just because you're physically close doesn't mean you're emotionally connected. Ask yourself, "Am I looking for something more or am I fooling myself?"
5. Maintain self-respect
Don't let someone temporary undermine your self-esteem. No momentary pleasure is worth losing your self-respect. If you don't feel appreciated, walk away without guilt.
6. Avoid the behaviors of a real relationship
Don't make plans for the future, don't buy expensive gifts, don't fantasize about a family. These actions fuel feelings and confuse expectations. If the relationship is just for fun, stay on this line in your behavior as well.
Bottom line: If you know you're the type to get emotionally attached quickly, don't get into casual relationships. "Facing" your feelings when the other person isn't on the same level can be much more painful than simply not getting involved at all. Know yourself and choose consciously.
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Source: Your Tango
