This is not news: orgasm makes men and women react differently after they've had it. It has a profound sleep-inducing effect on men, while women feel more loved and energized.
This mismatch of reactions can rightly lead to conflict in a couple, but there is a solution: pillow talk after sex. This is after the man has taken the 10-minute nap he needs after orgasm – it's nature's fault, not women's – don't take it personally!
Here's what you shouldn't say during pillow talk:
- "It annoys me that you always do this after sex."
- "Did I tell you to fix the sink yesterday?"
- "It was great, but last time was better."
- "How can we improve next time?"
- In-depth analysis of all performance.
What to say:
- "God, I liked the way you kissed my neck/you did it with your tongue/you used your hands, etc."
- "You are very good at sex."
- "I really like how you feel/look/moan during sex."
- Any compliment that starts with his/her name.
If there's ever a time to connect deeply with your spouse, the sweet spot is after you've had sex. The chemicals released by your body will bring a unique vulnerability to both of you. So it's best to stay positive during this conversation—you're both naked in many ways.
If you feel safe, it can also be a time to bring up sensitive topics – but only because you both feel open and trust each other. If you feel like he/she isn't ready, don't pressure him/her - remember, it's all about keeping the mood positive and comfortable.
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Source: Your Tango
