Jealousy is a hidden emotion, appearing in the most unexpected moments and places - among friends, colleagues, partners, even in the family. It's hard to spot, but even trickier to manage. If left unchecked, jealousy can lead to hurt, misunderstandings, and broken relationships.
How to recognize jealousy in others
Jealousy doesn't always look like an eye roll or a sarcastic comment. It often manifests itself in more subtle ways and if you are not attentive, it can go unnoticed. Here are some typical signs to look out for:
Questionable compliments
You've probably heard them say, "Wow, you're doing really well for someone like you!" A compliment that hides an insult often stems from jealousy. The person tries to sound supportive, but actually belittles your success.
Constant comparison
Jealous people often compare themselves to others. They may try to downplay your achievements or point out that they have done the same thing, but better. If someone is always measuring their successes against yours, they are probably feeling jealous.
Exclusion or sabotage
Have you ever noticed that you are left out of social or work activities? Jealousy can manifest as exclusion or passive sabotage. They may feel threatened by your success and prefer not to involve you.
Reducing your success
When something big happens, the jealous may react with, "Oh, that's nice, but it's no big deal." By discounting your achievements, they try to protect their fragile ego.
Excessive criticism
Constructive criticism is one thing, but if others are overly critical of everything you do, that's another sign of jealousy. They may pick up on small details or find fault with your work to feel better about themselves.
How to deal with jealousy?
Now that you know how to spot jealousy, the real challenge is figuring out how to deal with it—without getting defensive and letting it affect your self-esteem.
Accept it, but don't get involved
First, recognize the behavior for what it is. Often, jealousy has more to do with the other person's insecurities than your own. Try not to take it personally. You don't have to buy into their negativity; accept the dynamic and focus on your path.
Stay cordial
Sometimes, the best response to jealousy is kindness. Jealous people often struggle with low self-esteem, so showing understanding and support can ease the tension. Offer sincere support for their achievements even if they don't do the same for you.
Don't dim your light
One of the most important things to remember is not to downplay your successes or hide your accomplishments to make others feel more comfortable. You've worked hard to get where you are and you deserve to celebrate that. Enjoy your accomplishments even if it makes others feel bad.
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