A healthy relationship does not mean that couples never have fights. Partners can have disagreements and still be on each other's side.
Psychologists have conducted a study on over 30,000 couples over the past few years to discover the expressions they use when "softening" a conflict. When a problem arises, the happiest couples use a language of cooperation that anyone can learn from!
Here are the six most frequent expressions they use!
#1 "I Feel"
Use this when you need help expressing emotions in times of difficulty or conflict.
Examples:
-"I'm scared"
- "Please say this to me more softly"
-"You're hurting my feelings"
-"It seems like an insult"
-"I feel like you don't understand me at the moment"
#2 “I need to calm down”
Use this when you start to feel down and need to get your space to calm down.
Examples:
-"I need your support"
-"Just listen to me and try to understand me"
-"Can I have a hug?"
- "This is very important for me. please listen to me"
#3 "I'm sorry"
Use this when you need to apologize.
Examples:
-"My reactions were very exaggerated. I'm sorry"
-"I really blew up"
-"How can I make things better?"
#4 "Stop Acting"
Use this expression when you feel empty and realize that you have exceeded every limit.
Examples:
-"I may have been wrong"
-"Give me a moment. I know I blew up"
-"Let's start all over again"
-"I feel bad. Can we take a break and talk about something else ?”
#5 "Let's Get to the Yes"
Use this when you want to show your partner how much you appreciate them.
Examples:
-"You're starting to convince me"
-"I agree with part of what you're saying"
-"Let's make a compromise here"
-"I never thought of things that way."
-"What worries do you have?"
#6 "I appreciate it"
Use this when you want to add positivity to your relationship.
Examples:
-"Love you"
-"I understand"
-"One thing I admire about you is..."
-"This is not your problem, it is our problem"
-"Thanks for..."
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Source: CNBC
