"Shadow of self" seems a common term, but we do not refer to the first meaning of the word. The term was coined by psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Carl Jung. The parts of ourselves that we want to repress or hide altogether are what are otherwise known as shadows. Instead of people denying the existence of the "shadow self", mechanisms must be found to work with oneself, to better manage relationships and feelings, even negative ones.
What exactly is a "shadow of self"?
This definition refers to things about ourselves that we repress or don't like to admit. Psychologist Jenn Kennedy explains: “We tend to judge, criticize and shame ourselves with certain thoughts that fall outside of a normal and positive pattern. This is the version of ourselves or the shadow that we present to others."
Psychologists say people need to work on this aspect because it creates more tolerance and self-acceptance for the parts we don't like.
Let's assume the fact that when you were a child you were bullied, but as a highly sensitive person, you suppressed your emotions and did not face the situation. By embracing your emotional side, that is, that part of the inner shadow, you have thus worked against the prejudices of others, although you have not given voice to your emotions.
Të punuarit me hijen e vetes mund të bëhet në mënyra të ndryshme. Së pari, mund të kërkoni një terapist ose një profesionist të shëndetit mendor, i cili mund t'ju ndihmojë të përvetësoni modele sjelljeje të reja që nxjerrin në pah potencialin tuaj të plotë. Ju mund ta bëni këtë edhe duke reflektuar, medituar, duke shkruar në një ditar, etj.
Ja disa pyetje që mund t’i shtroni vetes:
-Sa ngjaj unë me prindërit e mi në mënyrën si po i rris dhe edukoj fëmijët? Si mund të jem një version më i mirë se ata?
-Cilat pjesë të jetës sime më pëlqejnë dhe cilat dua t’i shmang?
-Kur ishte hera e fundit që u ndjeva xheloz/e për dikë?
-Cilat nga ëndrrat e mia janë të realizueshme dhe cilat të pamundura?
-Kur ishte hera e fundit që i fala një gabim vetes?
"Sitting" with negative thoughts and traits that we may not like about ourselves seems difficult, but this is an important step towards embracing our shadow.
Source: PureWow
