It could just be a good friend, or a best friend. Suddenly, you find out that she is cheating on her partner. Should you get involved? If so, how?
According to therapists, there is no "right way" to be in a situation like this. If you find out that your friend is cheating on your boyfriend, even if you find out by accident, it can make you feel like you're involved, even though it's not directly related to you.
Knowing about the infidelity can feel heavy because it makes you feel complicit. If you are also close to the person who cheated, there is an additional burden of guilt.
Should you confront your friend about their betrayal?
Family and relationship therapist Nicole Richardson says it depends on the situation.
If you know this person has trouble accepting feedback, they probably won't be interested in discussing it with you and will likely walk away from you. However, if this relationship seems out of character for this person, it might be a good opportunity for your friend to talk to someone and get out of the situation.
No matter how you approach it, be aware that it's going to be a difficult conversation anyway.
Before you decide to intervene, ask yourself a few questions:
"Is this my job? What are the pros and cons of me getting involved in all of this? What do I expect from this? What will be the real results of the conversation?"
If you do decide to talk to your friend, be careful not to sound judgmental, even if you're upset with them.
Try to avoid starting questions with "why". "Why", immediately, forces people to defend themselves.
Use expressions like "help me understand..." or "what happened when...".
This does not mean you will agree with him, just create an open dialogue where both sides can express themselves freely.
Source: Elite Daily
