Why do breakups seem more painful now than they used to? Unfortunately, the internet and social media can exacerbate a broken heart with frequent reminders of an ex-partner.
Breakups or divorces were less painful when the world was offline. Before social media, ending a relationship was a discrete event. Today, we have given ourselves and our partners the comfort to separate through a message or without interacting too emotionally with each other. Then we are ready to face the spectators who are waiting to comment on our sharing virtually or through the details that we ourselves have shared during the good days. How to heal a broken heart?
1. Remember that "Social media" is neither media nor social
If you start posting sexy pictures or expressions that you haven't posted before as proof that you're very happy with your new life, all you're letting on is that you still care. If you break up with someone, you should understand that you have also broken up with their social networks. If you allow them spaces or "small windows" from which they can deport you will simply prolong the period of suffering separation.
2. Alcohol negatively affects your brain
Alcohol, despite the fact that in some moments despair seems like a good friend, impairs judgment. So while drinking you can do actions that you may regret later. Excess of alcohol will only lead you to bad decisions such as consuming harmful foods, impulsive gestures, quick purchases that you don't need, reduced income, etc.
3. Do nothing
Be aware that in the moments when you most want to act on something related to your ex (to get him back to you) - do nothing! This at least ensures you won't regret it later. It's the small tactics and details that make the most important turns. The panic and desperation to get your ex back in your life will lessen whenever you don't try.
4. Do not accept sex with exes.
There are endless reasons why you would have sex with an ex-partner again. Maybe the sex was good, or just the thought of "one last time" tempts you. Do not do it! Studies show that people who use sex to cope with heartbreak after a breakup take longer to heal than others.
5. Be "your opposite"
Nëse sapo ke dal nga një divorc, por keni fëmijë bashkë, komunikimi me të është i pashmangshëm. Gjithsesi është mirë të mbani minimumin e ndërveprimit me ta dhe të flisni vetëm për gjërat më thelbësore. Duke vazhduar takimet e shpeshta me ta apo duke i lejuar të jenë prezentë në jetën tuaj, procesi i shërimit nga ndarja do të bëhet më i vështirë.
6. Mos përdorni kurrë askënd për të harruar një tjetër
Eshtë një kosto e madhe që i shkaktoni dikujt që s'ka lidhje me dhimbjen dhe historinë tuaj. Duke kërkuar ngushëllim tek një tjetër ju po ndikoni tek mirëqënia e tij/saj. Nëse je i lënduar, duhet të shërohesh jo të dalësh në takime të reja. Dil me miqtë e vjetër sepse ata mund të të kujtojnë sa i/e lezetshme ishe para se ish-i të hidhej nga interneti direkt në krahët e tu.
7. Pranoje ndarjen në mënyrë radikale
Accept the share and control your reactions. Remember that in life you either have to let some things go or you will prolong the period of emotional suffocation.
8. Practice forgiveness
Think that people may have forgiven you for many things in life, so forgive. If you believe it was your fault, forgive yourself and make peace. By admitting your flaws and mistakes, no one can use them against you. Let go of things that have no return.
9. Don't get lost in nostalgia
When you remember a romantic moment of love, you forget everything that went wrong with your relationship and start to idealize your ex. Wake up because if it was as nostalgia tells it, you would be together now and there would be no separation.
Source: Psychology Today
