There are times when even people with empathy - those who always find the right thing to say - find it difficult to find the words. Communicating with someone who has breast cancer can be one of these cases.
Dr. Shanthi Gowrinathan, a psychiatrist specializing in psycho-oncology at the John Wayne Cancer Institute, told Healthline that "we associate cancer with an extraordinary fear and thoughts of mortality." That said, it is difficult to talk to someone who has cancer and above all to know what to say.
According to experts, it is important to focus the conversation on what you believe the other person needs. Here is what you can say:
1. Will we talk about this?
You may think that when someone tells you they have cancer, they want to talk about the diagnosis. But maybe not. If they do not want to, do not take it personally and leave the door open to discuss later.
2. I am here for you. I'm listening to you.
Sometimes, the best thing you can do is let him talk. Everyone needs to know that they can be heard. Speaking helps to calm feelings and thoughts.
3. How can I help you?
A diagnosis of breast cancer can change a person's normal routine. This question is very important.
Keep in mind that unsolicited advice, even if you have had cancer yourself, is often well-intentioned but not well received by the other party. Experiences are different. If you want to share recommendations and experiences, let the other person decide if they will listen.
Also be careful with sentences like "I guess how you feel." No, you never know how the other person feels and such sentences can minimize their experience and negatively impact.
