Bad orgasms are defined as non-positive, unpleasant or negative orgasms and can negatively affect a person’s relationships, sexuality and psychological health.
The term "bad orgasm" refers to an orgasm that:
- feels like something negative
- occurs during a stressful relationship
- has negative effects on health or psychological relationship
- is painful
How is it possible?
Physically, orgasm refers to the sensation of contraction or relaxation of the pelvic muscles. "Typically, a bad orgasm occurs when someone goes through the physical movements of sex even when they are not in a mental or emotional state," Sarah Melancon, a clinical sexologist, tells Healthline. According to Melancon, "Any person of any gender or of any sex can have a bad orgasm."
Some situations that best describe it
1. The whole relationship is "meh"
- you do not feel good when you have sex
- you realize that you can not stand the person you are having sex with
- you feel tired having sex, but you do it anyway
2. You are having sex to avoid conflict
Have you ever agreed to have sex even when you are not in the mood because you do not want to deal with such questions: "Why?". Researchers call this sex for the sake of avoiding conflict.
3. Feel under pressure to reach orgasm
Society in general paints orgasm as the ultimate symbol of sexual pleasure, describing sex without it as something meaningless. Known as the "forced orgasm" or "orgasm image", this can make people feel like they have to reach orgasm, otherwise sex will be seen as a major failure. Sex is a journey, not a destination.
4. Orgasm negatively affects your life
Kjo mund të përfshijë çdo gjë, nga një orgazëm që ndodh kur tradhtoni partnerin/en në një orgazëm që ndodh gjatë shikimit të pornografisë. "Kjo mund të ndodhë edhe kur dikush ndjen turp ose neveri seksuale për aktet specifike seksuale në të cilat po angazhohet," thotë Melancon.
5. Dhimbjet
Dysorgasmia - orgazmat e dhimbshme janë ashtu siç tingëllojnë: Orgazmat që shkaktojnë dhimbje fizike.
6. Arsye të tjera
Mund të ketë një numër të pafund arsyesh pse përvojat e orgazmës gjatë seksit me konsensus mund të jenë të këqija. Për shembull:
- gjatë seksit mendon për diçka tjetër (punë)
- nivele të larta të seksit
- të frustuar, të lënduar nga partneri/ja
Çfarë duhet të bëni nëse përjetoni një të tillë?
Hapat varen kryesisht nga mjedisi dhe rrethanat në të cilat ndodhi orgazma e keqe.
At the moment: As soon as it happens, take a deep breath. If you are in pain, put something warm on your lower abdomen. If you are in a situation where you feel safe, talk to your partner.
Over time: Do not be surprised if it takes some time to deal with the emotions that come with a bad orgasm. "Often, it takes some time to process those feelings," says Melancon.
In addition to reflecting on why a bad orgasm may have occurred, regular conversations with a close friend, mental health professional, and partner about the experience can help.
