Feelings that come with the suspicion that the partner may have another relationship, are the most embarrassing in a relationship. No answer or thought is simple. But what can you do when such doubts prevent you from continuing the relationship as normal?
Experts suggest having a long conversation with your partner, but before doing so you should keep in mind 5 things that communication is more productive than a conflict that degrades into the next quarrel.
1. Before you start a conversation, decide for yourself where you want to end it
Want something from him that you are not getting? Attention? More emotional, physical closeness or something else? By setting goals from the beginning you will be more focused on achieving them.
2. Before you start with the accusations, be open with your fears
There is no better way than to start a conversation with sincerity, empathy and invite the other person for an honest dialogue.
3. When emotions overwhelm you, you will find it even harder to discuss your concerns.
Try not to judge and blame anyone without first discussing. Remember that you are facing the person you love, or at least the one you care about. When we are scared, it often happens that we misunderstand the behavior of others. What seemed to you like betrayal may turn out completely differently once you learn more.
4. Remember that people define infidelity differently
Do not think that you and your partner conceive of betrayal alike. Therefore, wait for it to be clarified and try to understand their point of view on the issue at hand.
5. Go back to your story
Have you been betrayed before? Have you had such doubts about other partners before? Sometimes it is better to talk to someone before reaching conclusions.
What if your fears come true?
Of course learning something like this is not easy and upsets the balances of everything, but you are not alone. You need support, so trust your friends. Be patient and be kind to yourself. It is usually best to avoid making important decisions as a result of injury during this time. Clarity comes over time, so wait for it to heal.
Burimi: Psychology Today
