I'm John and I'm in a relationship with someone addicted to the phone. I often feel bad because she will pick up the phone and navigate through Instagram and TikTok while we are talking. Personally, I believe the best way to overcome an addiction is to first understand it. 'Likes' in social media posts trigger dopamine responses that bring a sense of joy.
John's girlfriend:
"After we were both tired of the frequent use of the phone, my boyfriend suggested something to me. We decided that whenever we are doing the same thing together, the phones should be removed. This applies to all early when we watch movies, talk or Of course, we can answer someone quickly or open the phone if relatives call us, but not sit for hours looking at the cell phone. We try to do this as often as possible during the week and we apply more strictly during Friday, the evening of which we dedicate only to each other.
Results?
We are spending more time together and before, we did not realize that we had been together physically, but not really. Moreover, we have started to make better use of our time. We move more, make shorter trips and most importantly, we are more present with each other.
We communicate better and are more focused on each other's needs. Of course, this does not mean that we no longer use phones at all and are non-stop together, but we have achieved an almost perfect balance.
