The golden rule after separation is as simple as it is unenforceable: Zero contact with the former! ~ Zero contacts ~ means; no messages, phone calls, blocking through social networks and no harassment through fake addresses. According to experts, practicing this rule is very effective as it allows you to sit alone with your pain by not allowing any broken heart particle to be temporarily filled with someone else.
Lack of contact with your ex-partner will help you accept the pain, get through it and gradually create room for something new in your life.
It is easy to convince yourself that by talking to him all the time, there may still be hope and that things are the same as before the separation, but no. This temporary comfort does harm in the long run. Refusing to accept that this relationship is over will do you no honor but prolong the pain of separation. If you start living and getting used to his / her presence in your life, things will be simpler.
We understand that it can be very difficult to block the ex's number, remove it from social networks along with all the people associated with it, but at the end of the day it will be worth it. The first step (zero contact) is the hardest, but at least you will not have to lie to yourself.
We know that in such cases it is the email that suddenly surprises you, but resist. According to experts you should not go back just because you feel you miss, remember that you parted for a reason. Of course, following a rule like this is not an easy thing to do as it takes strong will and determination - especially if you and he frequent the same bar.
Now, if your hand and heart do not want to delete the number or block them, do something else. Before the toxic ex returns, change your phone number as promised! It is the first step towards happiness.
Source: Cosmopolitan
