Whenever we are faced with a difficult decision, the most common sentence you hear is: "believe in your instinct" or "be yourself". There is a kind of conviction that if you listen to your inner voice, you will make the right decision and direction, without being influenced by the expectations of others.
If you were to stop and think for a moment, would you not ask yourself: What if I do not know what my true self is? Aristotle was right when he said that "knowing oneself is the beginning of wisdom", as this is the most difficult process.
How do you know yourself and understand what is your truest option?
If you look around different cultures, the concept of being yourself is constantly appearing. "It's the essence of what makes you who you are, very deep, overcoming any kind of surface capacity," says Nina Strohminger, a lecturer at Wharton University School of Business in Pennsylvania.
According to her, there are parts within us that are truly ours just as there are other parts that do not fully represent us. What is considered a real part of us depends on the values ??and beliefs we have. We believe that the truest version of ourselves is hidden behind what remains of the labels of our daily lives — parent, sister, brother, partner, or job position. Our external identity is also colored by past experiences, by the expectations that others have of us and the way they see us (the smart one, the athlete, etc.), factors that can dilute our true version.
On the other hand if for a moment we could imagine all these "layers", we would connect with the truest version of ourselves and feel more fulfilled.
"Jo domosdoshmërisht ti sheh versionin më të vërtetë të vetes gjatë gjithë kohës. Ta gjesh këtë përshkruhet si një proces i shtresëzuar. Eshtë njësoj si të zhveshësh lëkurën nga shtresat e saj për të dalë tek esenca."
Ne veprojmë ndryshe në kontekste të ndryshme ose me kalimin e kohës, por thellë brenda nesh ka diçka që është e pandryshueshme dhe ajo është të qënit vetvetja, pavarësisht ndryshimeve në veprime apo sjellje.
Kur mendojmë për "vetveten", shpesh imagjinojmë që ai zëri i brendshëm do të na çojë drejt vendimit të duhur. Në fakt, studimet kanë treguar se ka një tendencë për të menduar se varianti më i vërtet i vetes është gjithmonë i mirë dhe se thellë tek çdo individ ka diçka që na motivon të sillemi në mënyra të ndryshme.
A ekziston "vetëvetja"?
According to psychologists, what we consider to be a true version of ourselves depends on the values ??and beliefs we hold. This concept is closely related to the sense of well-being. Studies have shown that those people who identify closely with the concept of "being themselves" have a higher sensitivity to well-being and goals. Others have concluded that those who have made "self-guided" decisions have been more satisfied with the outcome at the end of the day.
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