I know the title makes me look like the worst of this story, but I didn't know how to sum it up otherwise. Let's call my friend Dean and his girlfriend Helen.
I'm a university student and spent summers, interning at a marketing firm. Dean was my boss there and so we became friends. Our friendship evolved even though we were not working in the same place. The more I knew her, the more I fell in love with her. He is extraordinary, hardworking, successful, he has humor, he has it all.
His girlfriend is none of these. Technically it is a failure. It is uneducated and unemployed. Helen did not finish high school because she had family problems. Apparently, his mother had severe anxiety and depression, had overdosed several times, and had suffered a nerve crisis and hurt himself if left alone at home. So Helen stayed with her and still stayed when her father couldn't. Over the years, Helen has acknowledged that caring for her mother has caused her mental problems. She is visited by a psychiatrist and treated.
She too suffers from anxiety and panic. She has worked in some places (when her father cares for her mother), but all have experienced panic cries of crying and screaming. Sometimes it happens at night, but he seems to know how to calm himself. In short, he has never done any schooling and never had a good job.
Dean and I have talked about it many times. He thinks she's doing her best. She cooks, cleans, washes clothes, takes care of the yard in her home. his father paid little for all this work. It also publishes videos online and makes money in this way as well. Almost no gain.
Dean and Helen have been together for five years and he has admitted that she may never work and that she may never finish school. Dean himself has a degree in marketing but doesn't care. He says he'll take care of the family and has no problem if Helen takes care of the house.
I sent him a message asking him why he wanted her, how he fell in love, why. I do not understand. It can find many times better. He replied: ?I fell in love with him for many reasons. He is compassionate, delightful, following me always sees the best in others. I like her humor, her beauty, her intelligence, the fact that she always does well. I like that he is passionate and competent because I am also competitive. I love it when cooking because it doesn't need to look at the recipe hundreds of times like me. i like her laughter and her smile. I like her voice when she sings, I like her voice under any circumstances. I love her hugs and kisses. I love it when I brush my hair. I like the things he draws. I love her tastes in music and meme. I love her presence, the way she dances, the skill in everything. I love that it will help people. I honestly like the man he is. I admire her and will always love her by herself. ?
I told her how I felt, that I fell in love with her and that I didn't like her presence. he said to me, ?I enjoy it. I don't know what I would do without him. "
I told him that he was comfortable with her and was staying because they had many years together. I too thought I wouldn't be able to do it without some people, but I did. The same will happen to him. He told me, ?I don't want to. I would appreciate it if you didn't talk about my girlfriend anymore. ? It's terrible. If you had a jean, you would respect it. Understand?"
So, in short, there is no intention of sharing. The little money he earns saves him making gifts. Made a surprise video of his favorite actress, led him to see his favorite team, bought them on the PS4, this summer will go to a concert of a band that likes. It also makes small gestures such as romantic letters, drawings, paintings and the like. I think of these hang with him. But I too can forgive these things. She's just had more time than me.
I'm studying hard. I work as a bartender to finish school. I love Dean, I love the time we spend together. It's the whole world to me. One has the idea of how to do it for myself. I want to be mine and obviously I'm right for him, he just doesn't understand.
Source: Reddit
