Meghan Markle's words and the stories that young Albanian mothers shared on Anabel_Hostel's Instagram also inspired Dalina Buzin to share one of her stories.
In a story published recently, the creator and executive producer of "Hostel by Anabel" shared the challenging experience of living while pregnant with her second daughter 9 years ago.
"I want to tell you a story I haven't told publicly but inspired by that Meghan Markle note, I'm sharing it 9 years later. I come into that category of women who don't complain about work and since I always have made more of what was delegated to me, people thought I was holding on. I was pregnant with Helen, my second daughter, when they offered me to work at Top Channel. Some things I found ready, like the staff and others brought the "gift" as the presenter, with whom I was tired of being double inexperienced.
Although physically aggravated, I say we made an Afternoon which was rumored, we had many programs discussed at the time and visibility (at least according to my superiors) increased. 20 days after giving birth, with the milk on my jumper I go back to work because the television doesn't wait for you and two months later, I get fired at the behest of the owner for reasons I still don't understand, but I forgive for being Honestly, I didn't consider them. I didn't talk, I didn't joke, I didn't take any revenge and nobody at Anabel.al felt any anger with Top Channel. On the contrary, the media occasionally wrote that Top paid us for articles from them. Bullshit!
The story is that when I quit my job (of course removal is not fun even when you're with God's right), I decided to stay home alone. To be honest, they have been some of the funniest weeks because I enjoyed the kids. I was out of work because Anabel Magazine was still on the market and I had to work for it, but I had some leisure time with oysters, and even learned many dessert recipes that I have now forgotten. It didn't take long because Ardit Gjebrea "caught me" not even two months after I had left and started work again. I started from scratch with the same energy because it was a new flyer with a very high load. For people at work, I had no children because I had pushed myself not to justify "I have kalamaj" but to work double as well as those who were single and more free time.
All this challenge, in order to do it all very well, passed me without realizing it was a kind of mania. day I ended up at the psychologist's office.
I realized that wanting to justify nothing, I was just trying to justify to others that I am an invincible super hero. Another stupid one! Of course, I never quit my job and still have long nights in the office, but I'm very self-conscious about what I am for others. I don't kill her anymore! I think the pressure on women is enormous, but I also think that women like me who love their careers, want to keep their name, etc., often add unnecessary pressure to themselves and unhealthy at the same time.
I realized that there is time for work, as there should be time for children and you have to listen to the body, and also not be ashamed to say "Yes I want to be a mother too! Yes, I have hormones! Yes, I have to stay home and not go to work 20 days after giving birth because the uterus has not even arrived in the country! "
Nothing rushes us, especially us women who work and work well, we will always make room for ourselves. The job is not to get caught up in family-career balances, of looking perfect, because we all know it's a big lie! "
